Relationship and social media
Is it truly possible to have a relationship with the use of Social Media? Social media makes lying in relationship, whether it is good or bad, impossible. The fact that a person can go on Facebook and track exactly what you’re doing, whether you like it or not, will always going to create a problem in relationships. For example this post by a man who was caught cheating on his wife because he checked in at a hotel where he was having an affair with another woman. “Don’t check-in on Fb that your @ a hotel if your not with your man/woman. LOL” .
I had just returned from a business trip to Utah and my wife met me at the TF Green Airport, she was cold and insensitive, she had been going out nightly for two weeks with friends she met on ‘FaceBook’, she told me she no longer loved me and wanted a Divorce. We just celebrated our 25 wedding anniversary on 10.4.11. A year ago my wife didn’t know how to use a computer, her brother sent her a ‘Face Book’ invite, it was an innocent beginning for her, but she setup her profile, and left her status as ‘single’, started to notice she would be spending hours (3-4) on her laptop, but though thought that very long amount of time i believed her, when she said she was chatting with family overseas who she hadn’t seen or talked with in years.
Then a week before flying out to Utah on 10.4.11, walked into our bedroom, and could hear to my shock and amazement a mans voice coming from our bathroom, wife was on her cell taking a bath and talking to her friend, and she was speaking with such a loving and delicate tone that i hadn’t heard in over 20 years.
When i confronted her, about the call, she lied, and said she was speaking with her brother, then she became upset and accused me of spying on her, which is absurd, i had walked in the bedroom, with no intention of hearing my wife on phone speaking with another man. The day after this, she told me that she was talking to her girlfriends, lover, that he couldn’t reach her girlfriend, and that her girlfriend who is married and met the guy though Facebook, gave him my wife’s phone number, so he could call my wife to track her friend down. Facebook, should be called disgracebook, marriage is no longer sacred, and apparently its a fantastic dating site. I don’t have a Facebook account and never will.
It all started the year we got married in 2008. I don’t know anything about Facebook but my husband sure did!! He was always on Facebook but I thought nothing of it. Until I started my Facebook page and my husband did not want to be my friend on Facebook. So that’s when I started to ask questions wounding why? My husband had been hooking up with girls he already knew from. He was so mad he stop get on line and told me that I had no right to be on his page. So I stared contacting this girls letting them know who I was. So that they can forget about have anymore contact with him and they understood. So them my husband got his self together and know he is so far doing right my me and our marriage. And he is back on Facebook but yes I steel keep a close watch!!!!
These are common stories of how Facebook has caused peoples intimate relationship to crumble, by allowing lines of communication to remain open. One of the biggest questions that arise with people who cheat via Facebook is how they were able to create such an elaborate relationship in such a short amount of time. Studies have shown that people can establish relationships on Facebook in a few days, as opposed to the weeks it may take traditionally.
The nature of our relationships will now have to be structured around Facebook. We now define our real based on what Facebook says. If you are in a relationship a person and you don’t have it posted on Facebook it is not officially considered a relationship. The days when a person would allow there girl friend to where their varsity jacket as a sign of a serious relationship are over, now you will need to give your spouse your Facebook password. The unfortunate truth is that there doesn’t seem to be much of a solution, besides not using Facebook.
BA in Information Science, 2012